what is going on? please help!
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what is going on? please help!
| Fri, 08-20-2004 - 1:49am |
if any of you have been reading my posts you already know about the "taking time off" phase that me & my bf of 2 years are going through. Anyhow we saw each other on Tuesday at my request. We had a great time (not like always of course) but it was good. After a nice dinner we went over to his place & I tried to bring up the subject by asking him about the fact that he told his friends that we have broken up. He denied it & I accepted. He said that he still loves me however he still has some thinking to do! ( I am bot sure where this thinking is going?)Anyhow he assured me that his love is still there. Then I asked him to promise that he will discuss the problems with me so that we can talk about them & hopefully find a solution, I told him that leaving him is hardly an option for me, he agreed that its just a difficult for him. I came back home that night thinking things were better but he hasn't answered my calls for 2 days! I mean he does pick up the phone but says that he will call me & then he doesn't! So I left him a message tonight asking him to talk to me if he needs more space. I figured I won't call him until he calls. Does anyone have any explanation for his behavior? Please help, I am going insane here.....

Him asking for space doesnt mean that its okay to call him several times a day and request to see him all of the time. In fact, it most likely doing the exact opposite of what you want it to do, its pushing him away. Dont call him, I know its hard, but you want him to be with you because he loves you and wants to be with you...not because he just couldnt get away.
Give him some time...and that might mean a week or two, not a couple hours in between phone calls. If things dont work out and he chooses to stay unattached, thien you need to accept that and appreciate his honesty.
Bets wishes,