What is he? A friend? Something more?

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Registered: 11-26-2011
What is he? A friend? Something more?
Sat, 11-26-2011 - 2:30am

Hi all-

This is my first posting. A little backstory... I have a male friend that I've known about 5 months, and I'm very confused. When we first met, he was really interested in spending time with me, but telling me upfront that he was separated and just wanted to be friends. Not a problem initially. He and I met in public places and would chat, and text, email, and stay in touch more than once daily.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Sat, 11-26-2011 - 3:03am
It sounds like he wants to keep you on the back burner until he decides if there's any chance of him getting back with his wife. I'd back off from any romantic ideas until you see divorce papers in hand and you know for sure there's no change of that. Can handle just being a friend if that does happen?
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Registered: 05-20-2009
Sat, 11-26-2011 - 4:28am

You know very well that he's not "something more"!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 11-26-2011 - 1:16pm

You can just ask him "what gives?" since he is a friend.

Plus when he says, "Let's get together sometime" then set a date, time, and place to do that right when he says it otherwise figure that he won't and let it go.

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Registered: 02-15-2008
Sat, 11-26-2011 - 5:00pm

IMHO the guy is lying to you.

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sat, 11-26-2011 - 5:19pm

Clarees, I'm looking at this through a friendship perspective.

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Registered: 12-05-2010
Sat, 11-26-2011 - 8:21pm