what is he really saying

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Registered: 03-09-2004
what is he really saying
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Tue, 03-23-2004 - 3:31am
Ten years ago after 16 years of marriage my husband told me he had been unfaithful over the years. We went to marriage couseling and talked over some of the issues. It wasn't until months later when he started pulling away again that I felt something was still wrong.

It seems I wasn't really listening to him at all.

When I asked him for a better explantion of his feelings this is what he had to say.

" I love you but I'm not in love with you. I want to stay married but I'm not into romance or paying special attention to just one person. Can't we just be nice to one another and try to get along without arguing."

Somehow I feel I like I have just had the rug pulled out from under me.

Can a husband love his wife without being in love?

texasdraw

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Registered: 09-05-2003
Tue, 03-23-2004 - 7:03am

Well I guess, but what he is really saying is that he wants the benefits of being married to you, without any of the responsibilties.

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Registered: 09-26-2003
Tue, 03-23-2004 - 8:53am

I agree, this man is taking advantage of you and love you have for him and has been throughout all of the years. He has no respect for you, or himself and I would get the heck outta there as fast as I could.


As much as it hurts, you are so better off without him!! Why would you want to spend anymore time with this man?He betrayed you for years and will continue to do so if you let him.


Good luck,