WHAT THE HELL DOES HE MEAN?!?!?!

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Registered: 03-23-2004
WHAT THE HELL DOES HE MEAN?!?!?!
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Tue, 08-17-2004 - 10:26am
Ok I am confused and it seems like no one else understands this either. I have been with my bf for 3.5 years. Everything was going great. We met while I was a freshmen in College and we had a long distance relationship for three and a half years. I just graduated college and moved in with him. He is the one I want to marry...ect. OK so here is the deal, he came to me about three weeks ago and told me that he wants to marry me. I was psyched but I knew this wasn't a proposal. He told me that he wants to marry me, he always knew I was the one but he is so scared. He is 22 (as I am as well) and he is kind of immature. So we are right now "taking a break." But we still say "I love you" to eachother and we still kiss. I moved back to NY with my family but he still lives only an hour away, so I see him here and there.

I guess what my question is....is this real? Do you think this is bull? He is such an honest person and keeps crying whenever we see eachother. I know he loves me unconditionally but this sucks so much that we have to be going through this. I talked to his best friend who happens to be a good friend of mine as well, and he said that D (my bf) is just taking some time to make sure this is really what he wants and that when we get back together he is going to start talking about marriage. I'm so confused with this whole situation. D keeps trying to explain it to me but I can't help feeling sad and hopeless.

Please~has anyone had this happen? Did they end up getting back together? Should I try to move on?

Thank you
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Registered: 07-20-2004
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 1:51pm
I don't thiink that him taking some time to figure things out is a bad idea. The fact that he has initiated the idea of marriage means a lot for a young man. I'm sure that his fear is real and he is trying to be honest with himself. If you love him and believe he is the one, don't give up. Do your own thing for a minute and try to be undersanding. If it is meant to be it will be so don't stop living your life. He will come around.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 5:27pm
catiebug2004...

"Absence makes the heart grow fonder"----Pianoguy is certain YOUR MOM told you this once or twice during your 'growing-up' years?

So rather than try to figure out the mysterious outcome of your 3.5 year relationship with this man, why don't you RELAX AND ENJOY HIS COMPANY? Hell..you've already got the man 'crying' whenever you leave his place---doesn't that at least tell you SOMETHING?

Pianoguy---who still doesn't understand why so many women need to ask "emotionally related questions" when the answers are already VISIBLE!