What is His Obsession With His Ex?!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-07-2008
What is His Obsession With His Ex?!
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Mon, 04-07-2008 - 12:58am

Ok I guess I just don't understand the way guys work, sooo here's my story:


iVillage Member
Registered: 08-21-2005
Mon, 04-07-2008 - 9:05am

It sounds like he is enjoying the attention from the other woman. He is not being honest with you. Anyone that is texting under the sheets and deleting messages is trying very hard to keep in touch with someone and hide it from you. The fact that he gets defensive with you when you mention your concerns is a huge red flag too.

I think as much as you love him, you need to walk away from him. He is showing you no respect. You can't trust him. He needs to see you're not going to put up with his cheating ways. You deserve much better than that!

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Mon, 04-07-2008 - 12:26pm

Welcome to the board selena5473,


This behavior with this is unacceptable in my opinion. If it was all in innocent fun he wouldn't still be doing it and he wouldn't be texting her at 2 in the morning under the covers. I would tell him that he needs to make a choice you or her because his behavior at this point it out of line.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2007
Mon, 04-07-2008 - 1:28pm
After three years with you he shouldnt be playing "stroke the ego" withthe ex.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-15-2006
Mon, 04-07-2008 - 3:28pm

His behavior is immature and unacceptable. The thing is, by letting it happen, you're giving him the green light to continue.
You didnt mention your ages, but he is acting very young. Why would anyone want to play a joke like that on someone?
I think deep down, you know what needs to be done. If he cares, then he'll realize what he is doing and clean his act up, other wise, he deserves to be alone- and you deserve better.

Best wishes

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-07-2008
Mon, 04-07-2008 - 3:33pm
Thank you eveyone fo your advice!! I showed him this discussion and he was like " wow, I didnt know it was that big of a deal, I'm so so sorry" Than he called his ex and told her it was all just a childish prank and that he was happy with me, I am so glad I wrote on here, lol. Anyways thank you guys so much for all your help!