What parents think of my boyfriend help

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Registered: 07-05-2006
What parents think of my boyfriend help
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Fri, 12-23-2011 - 1:42pm

I had an ex that took my parents awhile to like, he had a job and a car but lived with his parents and lived in another state he was trying to get me to move to. That relationship ended, and now I have a boyfriend who has a job, and lives on his own, but doesn't have a car (he did have a car but it broke so he's saving up for a

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Fri, 12-23-2011 - 6:08pm

What is your ideal lifestyle in your opinion?

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 12-23-2011 - 6:46pm

The other poster raised a lot of good points.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Fri, 12-23-2011 - 11:27pm
If your happy now I guess that's all that matters. I think your parents are more concerned about the future than the now. Would he be able to support a family on $12 an hour if you 2 have kids and you want to stay home with them for the first few years? Their wondering if he's got any career aspirations beyond working at Walmart. You will have the potential to earn a lot more money with a college degree. Will you be happy being the main breadwinner in the future? These are things YOU realistically need to think about?
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Registered: 05-20-2009
Sat, 12-24-2011 - 12:31am

I think you need to stop worrying what other people think.

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Registered: 07-05-2006
Sat, 12-24-2011 - 11:27am
Thanks all. Well I know that I probably wouldn't ever be able to stay home with my children in the future if I had any but I'm the working type anyway and wouldn't really want to take a few years off of work either. There are so many people I graduated with that now have kids and they seem to be making it even without degrees so I don't think a degree is the most important thing. My parents never stayed home with me as a kid so I'm not expecting too much for myself. I think that if you really love someone then you can work it out and money isn't always the most important thing. It may be a struggle but if we work it out we can get through anything and our parents are always there to help us. I think it would be stupid to say you can't date someone or have to dump someone because they don't have a degree. "Oh well you don't have a degree and won't make enough for me so cya". That's horrible, that's not love.
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Registered: 12-27-2004
Sat, 12-24-2011 - 11:58am

I think you may be posting here to work out for yourself how you feel when you're hearing a lot of different opinions from family and friends, and you seem to be coming down on the side of love, which is characteristic of an idealistic young woman.

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Registered: 07-05-2006
Sat, 12-24-2011 - 12:08pm
As long as they respect us and what we want to do with our life than it's fine. Also he makes more than most supervisors at Walmart he's been there for 4 years so his pay is decent. He's a bike assembler and also assembles furniture and all kinds of stuff around the store he pretty much does everything. If he were to take a manager or supervisor position it's kind of pointless because he makes more than some of them already without the stress of dealing with what they have to deal with. Maybe if he were a supervisor or manager someday that could be an advancement in his career. I'm not too worried about that and Walmart also gives good benefits to full time employees and are pretty flexible so I'm not too worried. Now if he were just a cashier or something less important around the store who can't really do much then I'd be concerned but he likes what he does and he makes decent money for what he does so I can't complain too much.
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Registered: 12-27-2004
Sat, 12-24-2011 - 12:21pm
My husband. an assistant who worked primarily in remodeling hometown Wal-Marts into Supercenters, was earning $48,000 when he retired ten years ago--the pay has gone up since then. At $12 per hour, BF is earning $24,960, and assemblers don't have any other positions to move into. It is true that department supervisors earn about the same--Wal-Mart is not noted for paying its hourly workers lavishly--but sometimes it's necessary to take a pay cut to move ahead to positions with the potential to pay more in the future. Just saying.

By the way, I have been wondering: are you an only child?
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Registered: 07-05-2006
Sat, 12-24-2011 - 12:35pm
Thanks, maybe he will someday but I think we can together help each other with finances. He seems to be doing fine on his own I would only help so we can work together. I have an older brother 9 years older he doesn't have a degree just works for my dad who owns his own concrete company.
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Registered: 05-20-2009
Sat, 12-24-2011 - 1:04pm

I'm sorry, but I'm just sitting here reading your replies and shaking my head.

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