What is a respect?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-14-2007
What is a respect?
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Fri, 09-14-2007 - 2:26pm

Hello.


I've been dating with my b/f for a year and half. He had a long time g/f before we went out. According to him, they broke up few months before we started to date. After they broke up, still they meet up a couple times before we date.

He said they broke up so many times during 4 years of dating so although they ended finally, the attachement was heavily there which made them to talk everyday though they knew they're not bf&gf anymore.

So when we started to date, his ex thought he was cheating on her with me. He talked to her about me and all that jazz then we stayed together but he kept talking to her as a friend until now.

He said they have a lot in common and are very good friends so even though talking to her bothers me or hurts me, he cannot stop talking to her because she is a part of his life.


I do love him so I've tried to

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 09-14-2007 - 2:41pm

Welcome to the board yokotakano,


They sound very much still emotionally attached.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 09-14-2007 - 4:11pm

Welcome to the board,


He

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Fri, 09-14-2007 - 6:42pm

ctara puts it very plainly in a way you need to understand. His "friendship" (or whatever) with her is clearly not going anywhere and if you attempt to sever their ties then you will have a miserable resentful boyfriend. You're also entitled to be with someone whose heart is 100% available to you.

I wouldn't be putting up with this arrangement either. I know some people can deal with it, but it's not really fair for either of you to expect the other to be miserable for you.

I don't see this one working out.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-14-2006
Fri, 09-14-2007 - 7:25pm

He is not giving you the respect you deserve.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-14-2007
Tue, 09-18-2007 - 10:36am

I really appreciate