What is she doing?
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| Wed, 11-14-2007 - 11:39pm |
Hey folks. I posted a while ago about a girlfriend with a sordid past and an unusual social life... let me recap.
We've been in a long distance relationship for a couple months now, and things are getting really serious (or so I'm led to believe). I've known her for over a decade, and she's confided in me about certain indiscretions about the past. She seems to be more mature now, but old habits die hard, right?
She really makes me feel like things between us are truly special, but once a week, she has a party night. The party involves getting drunk with a big social group, and then hanging out for a generous portion of the evening with a male friend that I don't know. This isn't unusual behavior for her, and even knowing all that I know, I could be comfortable with the fact that she just hangs out with some guy.
Why am I concerned? She used to talk about hanging out with him... nothing specific, but she wouldn't be afraid to tell me that she went out with this guy. She can still even mention him in passing.
However, she has become less open about the relationship. In general, she doesn't talk about seeing him (even though I know), and whenever the topic of discussion tends towards that direction, she seems to change the subject. I'm not very direct because I don't want to engender thoughts of distrust, so perhaps its just my fault?
I have no evidence to suggest that something is going on. Last week, she didn't have her normal hang-out, but failed to tell me that it was because the guy wasn't around. I even managed to come across a message to her girlfriend about how her night sucked, partly because he wasn't around.
I could be a worry wart, but am I right to be worried? She's making me feel so comfortable in the relationship, I don't want to find out that everything is just a show.

Perhaps she doesn't say much about this other guy because she doesn't want you to worry unneccesarily.
Welcome to the board t-square,
This: "a message to her girlfriend about how her night sucked, partly because he wasn't around."
Sends up a huge red flag for me.