What should I do?

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Registered: 02-25-2008
What should I do?
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Mon, 02-25-2008 - 9:28pm
I got caught in a dating triangle situation. There is this woman who is dating two guys at once with I being one of them. After about 4 months of dating she tells me she has to talk to me. Judging by my senses I had a feeling that she was about to put me out to the curb. Well, I was right, but she could hardly even tell me, she was so upset. I took it in a very mature manner and didn't get mad or anything which shocked her. I asked her 3 questions I felt I needed to know. I asked her (1) Where is your heart at? She says she doesn't know and that she decided to go out with him because he just kept asking. (2) I asked her if the other guy was not in the picture would we be going out right now, she paused and said I don't know. (3) I asked would you say this is bad timing that we met and that if things were to change and assume that we are both single could we re-do this? She said yes. Now the way I look at it she did not say no to when I asked her if she would be with me if he wasn't in the picture. She also did not give me the classic lets just be friends deal. Usually you get the "I don't see this going anywhere but we can be friends". I didn't get that. She left it open. SO what do you think? Is she in this case "worth waiting for" We still have an attraction. What do you suggest I do and what do you think about this whole situation? Thank you.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 02-25-2008 - 10:26pm

Welcome to the board theboss79,


So she's unable to 'date' more than one person at a time?

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Tue, 02-26-2008 - 12:01pm

Welcome to the board theboss79,


For me the bottom line is if she didn't want to be with she wouldn't still be dating him, she would be dating you. I agree with Carrie. I wouldn't wait.