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what should I do?
| Mon, 04-09-2007 - 1:22am |
I've been with my bf 6 months now. Sometimes he jokingly calls me names. For example, to put it in nicer terms he will call me the "b" word referring to a "mean girl" or another "b" word referring to a girl who is not so prudish. This has been going on for 3 months. Sometimes he does this around his kids which really bothers me. Not just because it is foul language, but because it makes me look bad. I told him I don't like it and that it makes me uncomfortable, especially around his children....I've already given up on trying to get him to change the way he talks all together. He really does curse a lot. He also "jokingly" calls me things such as "nitwit" or "ditz". I don't like this at all and I have given up on trying. But I do love him and want things to work out between us. I just don't know what to say or do to make him realize that this is not appropriate. Is there anything I can do to make this work or should I get out?

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sarahb_81,
You have already said that you have given up on trying to change this about him. It should be pretty easy to realize that women don't like to be changed names like that, joking or not. Have you told him you don't like it and you want him to stop? If so, and he won't stop than you have to decide if you can be happy in the relationship if this continues.
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Hi sarahb_81 and welcome to the board,
You've told him already that it bothers you and he's not listening. You can try one more time, tell him "Previously I expressed now much being called names upsets me, I'm not sure the depth of my distress has been expressed, so I will express it now-
Coltara,
I have told him a few times. It just never seems to sink in. I'm going to give it one more try, and hope is discontinues......if not, i'll just have to suck it up and walk away.
Thanks for your advice
Sarah
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It's called being passive-aggressive. It's a joke, sure, but why aren't you laughing?
::responses from him were clearly "I dont care. I'm not going to change for anybody"
Then you thank your lucky stars that the relationship has only been going on for 6 months and move on.....
Sorry you have to go through this.
** Carrie **
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