What should I do?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-26-2004
What should I do?
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Mon, 04-26-2004 - 12:36am
Five years ago, i had an affair with a married man. After I ended the two month affair, i found out i was pregnant. I gave birth to a baby boy and never told my husband the true biological father of the baby. Two years ago, my son and I met his biological father accidentally at the local mall. By just looking at my son features, my exlover knew that he was the father. He promised me not to tell my husband. Recently, I found out that he had divorced his wife and now wants to be part of my son's life. He has threaten to tell my husband. I want to tell my husband but i really don't know how to go about it. I know that i have deceived him but i am afraid i might lose him if i told him the truth. What should I do?
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 04-26-2004 - 2:07pm
Who would you rather he hear it from - you or the father?

You have to be the one to tell him, even if that means in front of a counselor.


Carrie

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Registered: 04-22-2004
Mon, 04-26-2004 - 3:23pm
Yes it is better that you tell him, lies do and will come back to haunt you. This is going to be a very testy time for your relationship, not to mention the real father and how he might want to control his role, You should seek some legal advice, not that im saying the real father shouldnt have rights, but to what limit as to not cause any other problems with your relationship with your husband. I cant imagine how you feel and yes I beleive a counselor for you to start and the both of you.. Good Luck