What should I do?

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Registered: 05-04-2008
What should I do?
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Mon, 08-18-2008 - 10:22am

I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and he is the greatest guy i've ever met. This past weekend I was drunk and cheated on him. I would never cheat on him if I wasn't drunk, but I know that still doesn't make it right. I didn't go past kissing, but I still feel really bad. I don't want to tell him for many reasons. Obviously, i'm afraid he'll break up with me. Secondly, the guy I cheated with was my friend/co-worker and I don't want to lose him as a friend if

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Registered: 03-06-2008
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 11:04am

If you want to be with your boyfriend, you cannot be friends with this co-worker, and you must tell him so.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 12:37pm

If you want to be with your boyfriend, you need to stop being friends and flirting with this coworker. Not only does your boyfriend not deserve to be disrespected and STILL have to deal with your continued friendship with the guy who you went over the line with, but you need to commit to ending any possibility of renewed temptation from the same source.

Okay, so it was only a kiss. But think about how you would feel if your boyfriend did the exact same thing with another girl - wouldn't you think of breaking up with him? It's a natural response to cheating, even if only to a small degree. Being drunk is a lame excuse, yeah, and maybe your guy will be forgiving of you and will not make a big deal out of a "stupid kiss". At least you didn't sleep with this guy... I do think you should be forthcoming with this information, tell him humbly what happened and apologize, letting him know how you will prevent it in the future and giving him confidence that you love only him.

He'll be mad, but he has a right to be angry and get over it rather than be cheated on AND lied to. Personally? I would get over a kiss. I wouldn't get over a lie.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 12:53pm

Welcome to the board gemini604,


So if your boyfriend kissed a coworker friend, you'd be ok with it if after they remained friends?

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Registered: 04-02-2007
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 2:42pm

I agree with the others....You need to be honest with yourself first though.