What should I do w/my feelings?
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What should I do w/my feelings?
| Sat, 09-18-2004 - 4:06pm |
Hi, ive been with this guy for about 3 years and i am just now having doubt. Everthing about him is wounderful except that he doesnt like when i hang with my friends without him. He says he doesnt care but he still changes his mood and makes me feel guilty? It confuses me. Anyway lately i have been thinking about a guy that i used to hang out with before i met my boyfriend now. We were never together, but there was always some connection. I stopped hanging out with him because my boyfriend now didnt like me hanging with him. This guy parties a lot and my boyfriend wasnt to fond of that. Anyhow ive been thinking about him a lot and i dont know what to do. I would love to just forget about him, but i would also like to persue something with him. I feel so guilty becasue i love my boyfriend so much and i can see me with him for the rest of my life, but these other feelings are starting to get in the way. I dont know what to do or even if this is ok or wrong. Can anyone help?

So, why not quit blaming your boyfriend for not letting you party with other guys...
Instead, face the fact that you are not ready for a serious relationship yet and break off with your boyfriend so you can date and party with other men all you want.
If you WANTED to stick with your boyfriend and you really LOVED him above all other men, then you would not be thinking of any other men nor would you want attention from other men nor would you want to party without your boyfriend present.
Your thoughts show you really do not love your boyfriend as much as you think you do.
Good luck.
The first question i will ask u is whether this is your first time feeling this way. Secondly, do you think you can be serious about this second guy. Thirdly, could it be a possiblity that you are feeling this way because u have felt restricted by your bf for too long? Fourthly, do YOU feel restricted?Fifth question, do you think it is worth it to leave your bf n get it on with the second guy? Sixth question, do u wanna settle down or do u feel that u wanna have fun first. You have to ask yourself what do u really want, n u have to answer honestly, straight from the heart.
ps: sometimes in long term relationships,this happens occasionally,but that does not mean we have stop loving or love our partners lesser. It's juz dat we're humans, but that is not an excuse to always be running away to some other guy n then going back to your former bf. You have to be strong, know what u want, n in a way be disciplined with your feelings, especially after u have gotten yourself married.