what went wrong?

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Registered: 03-29-2004
what went wrong?
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Mon, 03-29-2004 - 4:15pm
I have been dating this guy for nine months now. We have been friends for years and just nine months ago decided to date. Things have been great until this last month. This guy used to over call me and always ask me to hang out. He was like a cute little puppy dog. We had eight fantastic months and all of a sudden he's acting different. He has joined a sports team which has practice Mon-Fri, 2:30 till 6. He also works all day sat and sometimes Sunday. Now all of a sudden out of no where he thinks he has to hangout with me like I was forcing him the whole time, yet he was the one always calling me. Now he doesn't call as much never has time for me and gets mad when I get upset that I can't see him hardly at all. I really love this guy and he has been my best friend for a few years now. Can anyone tell me how to handle this? I want things to work out with this guy but I also want to teach him a lesson and not be around like he has done for me. He's been saying things like "I've got things to do, places to go and I don't have time". He has been a great guy these eight months but now I don't understand what happened.

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 03-29-2004 - 4:23pm
Sounds like the infatuation period wore off...and now instead of just telling you it's over, he's booking his time and not being available, hoping you will take the hint or that you will get fed up and end it with him.

Sorry for your pain.


Carrie

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Registered: 11-01-2003
Mon, 03-29-2004 - 6:52pm
i had a similiar situation. my ex was great, everything i've hoped for, and we were in love. we could hang out 3 times a week when we first started dating, and he would call me all the time. a couple months later he got a new car and started worrying about other things. then school lacross season starts and he barely has time for any hang-outs. i just felt like he's not interested in seeing me. he also had a job on the weekends, so i was lucky if i saw him once in 2 weeks. he became agitated when i call him to initiate hang outs, so thats when i had to call it quits.

i guess you should trust your instincts. there's a fine line b/t being busy but still wants to hang out, and making up excuses to escape the "routine" of hanging out. which one is he? you are worth more than the 2nd case. good luck! it's hard but don't settle for less than what you could have.