What would you do?
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| Sat, 01-19-2008 - 9:43pm |
I know there's no perfect man, but can I PLEASE find someone who has most of what I need! I've been seeing someone for a couple months, and I swear, he's the best guy I've dated at alot of things. He's so nice to me, and caring, and loves his family. We laugh all the time, and when I'm with him, it just feels "right." He's a sweetheart; in the morning, he takes me dog out and warms up my car so I have more time, and he clears snow off my car, takes out garbage, cooks dinner, the list goes on! He's just more attentive and caring than what I'm used to. The best part is, he wants to be in a relationship with me, and he tells me all the time that I'm a great catch; which is nice to hear. I'm used to men wasting time and not wanting to get serious. He's 29, and I'm 28, and he's said that he wants to settle down and have a family in the next 4 years, which is nice to know.
BUT, of course, it's not all perfect. The personal stuff, he's great; the life stuff, not so great. He's in between jobs; he lost his last one about 6 months ago and he's living with his sister now until he gets another job and gets back on his feet. (they live in my apt building). Also, he used to be on the wrong path, selling drugs, not doing the right thing, and he got in some trouble, which is now on his record. He's good now, but this issue is on his record, which is going to affect him getting a good job. That's what holding me back from him; I'm not trying to just have boyfriends that I know won't turn in to anything; I'm looking for a husband, someone I can see myself with in the long run. His job situation is holding me back from him, but I haven't cut him off yet because he has a ton of great qualities. We've been talking for 3 months.
So, what would you do? Advice welcome!

Hmm. Well, he can't change his past, so if you want a man who has never sold drugs or been in trouble before, then this is not your guy. I suspect that if he is able to find a decent job then you would be able to overlook this. At the moment he doesn't have anything to show for himself financially but of course that could change.
Is he seriously looking for a job? In what field? Does your work pay you well enough to be able to sustain you and a family someday?