What would you think?

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Registered: 03-19-2005
What would you think?
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Thu, 07-05-2007 - 12:26pm

If you have been with someone for 6+ years and you asked him "What do you love
or like about me?" and the answer was I dont know how to answer that.......I
just do.........
And then you say okay...some peeps have a hard time saying things like that
so you tell them... just think about it and write it down, even just 2. Said he cant
do that.....is that a lack of love, appreciation, respect, just dont care as long
as he has someone in his home to take care of things? I could tell a
person on the street what I like about them in 5 min of meeting them.

Give me a clue please.....both men and women

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Thu, 07-05-2007 - 1:52pm

Welcome to the board avery2005,


Actions speak louder than words. Do his actions show that he loves you?


Some people feel comfortable being emotional and expressing things things that way and others don't. Maybe he is one of them.

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Registered: 09-19-2002
Thu, 07-05-2007 - 4:51pm
Oh good Lord... get a grip! Why are you feeling so insecure after 6 years?
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Registered: 10-13-2004
Thu, 07-05-2007 - 6:19pm
Teenybubbles has a point. What has made you question his love for you? Are there problems in the relationship?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-05-2007 - 6:43pm

No, it does not mean that he does not love and appreciate you, it means that he has difficulty expressing or perhaps even recognizing what he feels. Some men feel extremely awkward giving voice to that which is deeply personal to them, and deeply meaningful. This man does not know how to feel at home with his feelings sufficiently to communicate them to you.


That said, you have been with him for over 6 years. That's a long time. By now you should know how he operates. If you don't feel loved and cared for by him, what are you doing there?


All the best,

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Registered: 03-19-2005
Sun, 07-15-2007 - 11:25pm
What if he tells me to ask another woman how he feels? Someone hes been intimate with?
I am a fool to be with him.......I really am.....
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Registered: 02-20-2007
Sun, 07-15-2007 - 11:38pm

Men aren't usually as good at women at pinpointing their feelings and putting them into words... I don't think you should punish him for that, if his actions are making you feel loved.

I agree though that there seems to be something else going on. What's the deal with him telling you to ask his ex how he feels?

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Registered: 03-19-2005
Sun, 07-15-2007 - 11:49pm
shes not his ex.......someone he met online b4 we met. I dont feel love......I honestly dont know what there is to feel anymore, its gone toooo far... will explain when hes not home and have more time.