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| Sat, 03-06-2004 - 11:59pm |
here's the situation:
we have been together for 3 years...we don't live together...it's getting to the point when there's nothing really to talk about except for new things happening in our lives...we used to talk alot and spend alot of time together in the undergraduate days...now things have changed for the past year(graduated, new jobs, etc) and he is more busy than I am...we see each other every few weeks for the past few months (for major events like V-day, my birthday) and rarely have "real" conversations on the phone due to busy/conflicting schedules. Absence doesn't make the heart grow fonder after all? ...I noticed that he doesn't try to impress me like he used to in the early days. There are some days I missed him terribly, and other days I don't miss him (ie. when my mind is occupied with work all day). Sometimes he doesn't sound too happy to hear from me when I call him (his work is mentally stressful, and he is also studying hard for his licensure exam in Sept) and I understand. At one time he told me that he felt he has been neglecting me. I have never felt this lonely during the course of our relationship...I totally trust him and know for a fact there's nobody else, nor is he interested in anyone. Does it sound like we are bored of each other (married couple syndrome?), or that we're just in an awkward stage in life where we are just starting out in our careers? How do I spice things up? This is our first relationship, I've love to hear some advice and insights on this!
we have been together for 3 years...we don't live together...it's getting to the point when there's nothing really to talk about except for new things happening in our lives...we used to talk alot and spend alot of time together in the undergraduate days...now things have changed for the past year(graduated, new jobs, etc) and he is more busy than I am...we see each other every few weeks for the past few months (for major events like V-day, my birthday) and rarely have "real" conversations on the phone due to busy/conflicting schedules. Absence doesn't make the heart grow fonder after all? ...I noticed that he doesn't try to impress me like he used to in the early days. There are some days I missed him terribly, and other days I don't miss him (ie. when my mind is occupied with work all day). Sometimes he doesn't sound too happy to hear from me when I call him (his work is mentally stressful, and he is also studying hard for his licensure exam in Sept) and I understand. At one time he told me that he felt he has been neglecting me. I have never felt this lonely during the course of our relationship...I totally trust him and know for a fact there's nobody else, nor is he interested in anyone. Does it sound like we are bored of each other (married couple syndrome?), or that we're just in an awkward stage in life where we are just starting out in our careers? How do I spice things up? This is our first relationship, I've love to hear some advice and insights on this!

Carrie