What's up with him?
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What's up with him?
| Tue, 01-08-2008 - 3:07pm |
I have been dating this guy for over a year now. I've let him know that I would like a monogamous relationship. I know he bought a friendship ring. (he left the email confirmation on his computer screen and then asked me to type something there....) But, he hasn't given it to me and seems to be becoming more distant and saying things that are kind of negative about our future. I feel I am becoming too dependent on the outcome of this situation. I do feel that if he is still not sure about me after a year, I should go. But I really hope that isn't the case. Should I just come out and ask him what's up, or wait for him to finish going through whatever it is he is going through?

Welcome to the board loveshouldbeeasy,
Communication is very important in relationship. If you feel something is going on with him, you need to ask him about it sooner rather than later. That way if something is bothering him it can be dealt with in a timely manner and before things get out of hand.
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It's really easy to know what's up with a person if we are willing to face what's going on and pay attention to the person's actions, not necesarily their words. You don't need him or his friendship ring to feel good about yourself. It sounds as if he's playing with your head, teasing you, witholding. Why would you want to be with someone like that?
Buy yourself a friendship ring. Become a good friend to yourself. Take your attention off him and this situation and become involved in activities you enjoy, be with people who value and uplift you. Then when you have some perspective, stop and ask yourself if he's truly the person you really want to have a relationship with anyway? Take the power back. You decide.
Best wishes,
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