whats with him?

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Registered: 12-30-2003
whats with him?
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Fri, 01-02-2004 - 3:20pm
My boyfriend and i have been together for a year now, living together for about 7 mos.He has a reputation for being a playboy in the past, infact alot of people warned me about him when we first started dating. he talks to his ex girlfriends has all their telephone and cell no., he says he has no feelings except friendship with them,I find hidden pictures of his exs around the house, I know he doesnt love or want to be with them so why is he so obssessed with his past girlfriends and what is going on with their lives?

I expressed my dislike of this he told me that that is how he is and he sees nothing wrong with it. He also has trouble having and keeping an errection and has lost all intrest in sex with me the last few months, he says its the high blood pressure. He said he will go to the doctors and seek help, but I found viagra hidden in the bathroom, months ago so I know he can do something about our sex life if he wanted to. The viagra has been used during the last several mos. but not with me.I have tols him how rejected i feel. he told me the viagra was old, but I know he has used it in the last several mos.He barely kisses or even holds me anymore and never wants to have sex. I told him i was seriously thinking of moving out, he told me he loves me and to wait untill he sees a doctor for his trouble. Help, whats with this guy?, hes 56 yrs old.
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Registered: 04-17-2003
In reply to: spanky908
Fri, 01-02-2004 - 7:01pm
Well, I personally would not feel totally comfortable with the constant contact with ex-gf. Thats just me. Some people just have to feel important and maybe his constant contact with them gives him that OR maybe he is keeping the "fires" burning just in case....I dont think that is is WRONG to be casual friends with the opposite sex, but when it comes to someone you shared part of your life with and you body, then you need to put some distance between you and them. He should realize that this is important and try and cool it - not totally cut off contact, but come on alot of women would feel uncomfortable with this. So would alot of men -

As for the sex issue - you have brought it to his attention. He knows how you are feeling. He has ask you to wait until he sees a physician. At least he says he is willing to do so - now try and help him make sure that he does. If he continues to put it off - I would again question him about it. I think its fair for him to ask for you to consider waiting.....

BUT you need to decide if you really WANT to wait. Is their too much other stuff going on ...thats something you need to think about regardless if he goes to the doc or not. Your post makes it sound like your ready to walk due to the sex situation....

Just my thoughts, good luck to you.

PlayNICE.

 

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