whats up with him, r we still together?

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Registered: 05-15-2004
whats up with him, r we still together?
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Fri, 08-13-2004 - 6:48pm
im so confused, my bf and i were broken up for 5months, we got back together about less than a month ago. but its been a week now that i havent heard from him. i called him couple times, he doesnt answer me. i know that he has done that before, he would just disappear for a week, maybe two, and then would call me back like there is nothing wrong or nothing happened.

what is that suppose to be, i dont get it, now im really confused cuz this time im scared if he decided that we shouldnt of had gotten back together, or is he just trying to take his time and realize what the hell happened between us, and maybe he needs some time alone.

i left him a message saying that, "if he doesnt want me to talk to him, he should just let me know. if its over, then its ok, just let me know". im feeling so sick right now, i dont know what the hell to do.

does anyone have any words of relif, i dont want to end our relatinship again, so dont tell me about leaving him, cuz i did that already, and i realized how much i really love him.

but y is he doing that, i know that he is the only one that knows the answer, but i just wanted to vent also, thank you for reading.

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Registered: 05-20-2003
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 8:18pm
Please take some control here. How does it feel to be a doormat and let him decide when you are and aren't together? It must be horrible. You got back together but you aren't sure you are together. Does that make any sense? You sit and wait by the phone. Your happiness depends on his whims.

It is time to move along and find someone who wants to be with you and respect you.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 11:35pm
He does it because he can. When he comes back, you'll be there, relieved that he's returned to you. He's not afraid of losing you, because he won't lose you. You'll continue to be his doormat, taking whatever he dishes out.

Until you take control of your life and make some decisions about what's good and right for YOU, this will continue.