whats his game hes playing?

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Registered: 07-15-2014
whats his game hes playing?
Tue, 07-15-2014 - 9:24am

Hi,i met a man last july while in a quiet bar driniking.he told me that he had split from his wife and kids but still staying there at wekends to look after kids while wifes working. he lives miles away as was currently working down my way on his job for 3 months.we saw each other every night and had loads of fun.After his job ended in my area he still kept in touch and declared his love for me and we have got on so well for the last 10 months.he still works a long way away from me yet travels most nights to come back to mine,and leaves at 5 am to go back to work.We were in so much love for each other.i have never met his 2 children and ive excepted that on a fri he goes back to his home town to stay at his wifes on the sofa and look after his kids on the saturday while shes at work.he will keep in touch with me and come back to me on the sunday and stay all week.The last few weeks he hasnt seemed himself.hes been silently textin,sat out in his van talking to the wife and being really quiet with me.he booked yesterday of work for me to go and have a operation and sat with me,yet i had the feeling he didnt want to be there,there was something else on his mind.ive been quite poorly for a few months now and in a and out of hospital with abdominal pains,which hes only visitied me the once and i feel guilty for being in pain and ill as he wants me at home and to be my cheerful self.feel like i have to put a brave smily face on all the time when im on morphine for pain.after we got back from hospital yesterday,he wasnt himself,he spent most of the day uostairs on his laptop and then came down for tea,egnored my kids and then took himself off to bed at 10 without saying anything. i texted him this morning telling him i feel like he doesnt want to be here and if thats the case then he needs to go back to his wife.he text back saying its not his wife,it his kids! so i left it at that as im upset and feel that ive been used by him for neally a year and hes probey still with his wife.while hes there at weekends, he cuts the grass,does the garden,cleans and does everything.ive been so poorly ive had to get my mum over to help me look after the kids etc as i carnt cope .what do i do? what does everyone else think to my situation ? and what should i do? is it normal for ur bf to sleep at there marrital home at weekends and do jobs for her etc while do nothig for me