In my opinion, this man owes you nothing. He's not your husband, and he is not required to support you financially. You've only been dating 10 months - way too soon to move in with him with your DD - regardless that he invited you. It's up to you to buy and maintain your own cars, and pay your own bills. It makes no difference how much money he has - it's his money and anything he gives you is purely voluntary and generous of him.
You should get a job, and move back to your apartment. Plenty of people with anxiety disorders work for a living. You only quit your job after you moved in with him so what does that say about your ability to work?Move out and and lose the sense of entitlement. That's the right thing to do.
I hope you realize that ALL of his actions so far lead to the conclusion that you are with a CONTROLLER.
Controlling men almost always use money as a way to control women. But I have problems with what you are expecting from him. Why should he pay you rent when he's not living at your apartment? He doesn't OWE you any money! 10 months in and already this relationship is a business arrangement. I know it's tough to be paying rent for a place you don't even spend your time but the lease is in your name and if you weren't at his house all the time, then you'd be living in your apartment. It's unreasonable to ask him for a share in the bills. And you think he should buy you a car? HAH.
You are nuts. Stop expecting boyfriends to take care of your bills. Or better yet, how about living on your own for a good amount of time? You've apparently subjected your daughter to living with "all" of your other live-in boyfriends, and had monetary living together arrangements with them.
Of course you've been with men who mistreat you. You make it really easy when you're expecting them to pay for you... When a man can hold money over your head, he has you on a leash. You'll have better relationships when you find the strength and ability to support yourself and not rely on a man to take care of you. I'm sad for your daughter. She deserves better than this.
I'm not sure what to say. Do you *really* think your BF should buy you a car??? Seriously! Why on earth would he do that?? Tables reversed, would YOU buy him a car? I don't think so!
If you are living with him, WHY do you even have bills to pay?? Ok, I can understand you have rent but why do you need cable, phone, etc. if you aren't there to use it. Turn everything off, including turning the heat down to a minimum so your bills are next to nothing. If you have to move back in then turn the heat up and reactivate your cable, etc. Why pay for something you don't need? I don't get it.
Quite honestly, your BF sounds like a real trooper for putting up with your demands.
As for your health, it is sad that he isn't more supportive, but could it be possible that he's tired of your behaviour overall? He may truly feel for you, but at the same time thinks your after his $$ and would like to see you more self reliant. Its an attractive quality to have goals and trying to achieve them. If you are not able to collect some sort of disability for your health, I imagine there is something you could find even part-time to get you some personal income. What happens if you need $$ suddenly? What if the relationship doesn't work out.
I can't help but feel you're looking more at his $$ than at who he is. You posted how much is in his bank account, and talk of how he OWES you. I don't see anywhere how you love HIM, or care for him, etc.
Personally, I think you and your DD should move back to your own apartment get on your own two feet and see where the relationship goes.
I have to say that I agree with the previous posters. He doesn't owe you anything and shouldn't be paying your bills for you or buying you a new car. Plus you say you don't want to get rid of the cable or phone in case you need to move back, but that you want him to buy you car. Who is going to be paying your bills for you if he doesn't?
And it isn't a 40k it is a 401k. Which is a retirement account. And he wouldn't be very smart if he took money out of it for anything other than retirement and especially not to buy you a car.
"And it isn't a 40k it is a 401k. Which is a retirement account. And he wouldn't be very smart if he took money out of it for anything other than retirement and especially not to buy you a car."
Wow, I actually missed that part of her post. Man... Using a retirement account to buy her a car. Ridiculous. $120k in a 401k is such a small amount compared to what it costs to live for a year when you're retired. I hope this guy runs far away, clearly it was a mistake to share any insight into his monetary gains with her.
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Ok, no offense, but I think you've been spolied by past boyfriends as far as the money is concerned.
In my opinion, this man owes you nothing. He's not your husband, and he is not required to support you financially. You've only been dating 10 months - way too soon to move in with him with your DD - regardless that he invited you. It's up to you to buy and maintain your own cars, and pay your own bills. It makes no difference how much money he has - it's his money and anything he gives you is purely voluntary and generous of him.
You should get a job, and move back to your apartment. Plenty of people with anxiety disorders work for a living. You only quit your job after you moved in with him so what does that say about your ability to work?Move out and and lose the sense of entitlement. That's the right thing to do.
I hope you realize that ALL of his actions so far lead to the conclusion that you are with a CONTROLLER.
Controlling men almost always use money as a way to control women. But I have problems with what you are expecting from him. Why should he pay you rent when he's not living at your apartment? He doesn't OWE you any money! 10 months in and already this relationship is a business arrangement. I know it's tough to be paying rent for a place you don't even spend your time but the lease is in your name and if you weren't at his house all the time, then you'd be living in your apartment. It's unreasonable to ask him for a share in the bills. And you think he should buy you a car? HAH.
You are nuts. Stop expecting boyfriends to take care of your bills. Or better yet, how about living on your own for a good amount of time? You've apparently subjected your daughter to living with "all" of your other live-in boyfriends, and had monetary living together arrangements with them.
Of course you've been with men who mistreat you. You make it really easy when you're expecting them to pay for you... When a man can hold money over your head, he has you on a leash. You'll have better relationships when you find the strength and ability to support yourself and not rely on a man to take care of you. I'm sad for your daughter. She deserves better than this.
I'm not sure what to say. Do you *really* think your BF should buy you a car??? Seriously! Why on earth would he do that?? Tables reversed, would YOU buy him a car? I don't think so!
If you are living with him, WHY do you even have bills to pay?? Ok, I can understand you have rent but why do you need cable, phone, etc. if you aren't there to use it. Turn everything off, including turning the heat down to a minimum so your bills are next to nothing. If you have to move back in then turn the heat up and reactivate your cable, etc. Why pay for something you don't need? I don't get it.
Quite honestly, your BF sounds like a real trooper for putting up with your demands.
As for your health, it is sad that he isn't more supportive, but could it be possible that he's tired of your behaviour overall? He may truly feel for you, but at the same time thinks your after his $$ and would like to see you more self reliant. Its an attractive quality to have goals and trying to achieve them. If you are not able to collect some sort of disability for your health, I imagine there is something you could find even part-time to get you some personal income. What happens if you need $$ suddenly? What if the relationship doesn't work out.
I can't help but feel you're looking more at his $$ than at who he is. You posted how much is in his bank account, and talk of how he OWES you. I don't see anywhere how you love HIM, or care for him, etc.
Personally, I think you and your DD should move back to your own apartment get on your own two feet and see where the relationship goes.
Welcome to the board lonely-kc,
I have to say that I agree with the previous posters. He doesn't owe you anything and shouldn't be paying your bills for you or buying you a new car. Plus you say you don't want to get rid of the cable or phone in case you need to move back, but that you want him to buy you car. Who is going to be paying your bills for you if he doesn't?
And it isn't a 40k it is a 401k. Which is a retirement account. And he wouldn't be very smart if he took money out of it for anything other than retirement and especially not to buy you a car.
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"And it isn't a 40k it is a 401k. Which is a retirement account. And he wouldn't be very smart if he took money out of it for anything other than retirement and especially not to buy you a car."
Wow, I actually missed that part of her post. Man... Using a retirement account to buy her a car. Ridiculous. $120k in a 401k is such a small amount compared to what it costs to live for a year when you're retired. I hope this guy runs far away, clearly it was a mistake to share any insight into his monetary gains with her.
Every other BF I’ve ever had always paid all the bills.
This man is so stingy with his money.
Lonely-kc,
I have to say that your posts are so outrageous that I really think you might be a troll trying to get a rise out of us.
But in case your not I have this to say:
He doesn't need to buy you or your daughter a car. It makes sense it would buy his daughters cars. They are HIS daughters.
And if you are getting so bored with this life, than leave him and find someone willing to be your sugardaddy.
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