What's his problem? Doing whats right?

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Registered: 11-28-2007
What's his problem? Doing whats right?
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Wed, 11-28-2007 - 10:56am

Ok…My problem.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-2007
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 5:27pm

I don’t know what you mean by a troll.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 6:03pm

OMG!! Are you serious.


In case you are...by troll we mean someone that is

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 7:13pm

There are many ways men view relationships. Many men do not feel that it is up to them to take care of all the woman's bills and needs, (in fact, most do not). You're living with him, you're not even married and yet you expect him to even draw money out of his pension to meet all your needs.


The best relationships are between two adults who are mutual, equal partners and share everything together, including costs. When a couple marries, there is then discussion about who does what, who gives what, how responsibilities are shared.


This man is not your father, perhaps you should look again at your expectations here. It's understandable that he would want you to work and contribute, both for his sake and for yours. I suggest you re-evaluate what a loving relationship is all about.


Best wishes,

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 7:31pm

Do y'all remember, a couple of months ago, a post by a man who had had two successive relationships with women who expected him to foot all the bills? He was bewildered by their insistence that he pay the rent, etc, and wondered if this was the "new dating." At the time I was doubtful that there could be women with such inappropriate expectations, but it looks like I was wrong.

Lonely-kc, I am absolutely speechless, and think I will leave the advice to those who are wiser than I.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-21-2005
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 7:57pm
You can not be for real! I have never heard anyone talk like you before in my life!
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-29-2002
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 8:48pm

While in a way I hope this is a joke to get us women all riled up.

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Registered: 10-21-2004
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 9:12pm

Get a job.

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Registered: 11-28-2007
Thu, 11-29-2007 - 9:42am

I’m not asking for him to buy me a new car just a newer car or help my get my car fixed.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-10-2004
Thu, 11-29-2007 - 9:51am

What would you do if you didn't have this boyfriend?

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Thu, 11-29-2007 - 10:19am

::He’s been sending his daughters money every couple of months.