Whats too much just guy time?
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Whats too much just guy time?
| Wed, 07-25-2007 - 12:02am |
My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year. We just moved in together and are starting to fight a lot. We fought a lot before we moved in but now its just getting worse. I know couples fight but its the same fight everytime. He wants to go out with the guys and I want him to stay home. He already has his night where he and his buds do music and thats fine. But since we both work all day and only see each other at night I would like to do something but we are so tired. So then when the weekend comes I want to do stuff but he wants to go do somethign with the guys. I feel that this is never going to end and we are always going to battle about this. I am not from this town I am here for school and do not really know anyone but him and a couple people. I know I need to make my own friends but its hard. Every girl that I know has a kid so its hard to just be like o lets go do something. I need help I do not want to fight anymore with my boy. I love him too much!

So how often is he doing guy stuff? If it's one night a week, that's really not so bad. You know, it would be nice if he could invite you sometimes. I like when my guy gets out with his guy friends, but I know that I'm always welcome with them if I want to come along. Building a rapport with his friends is a pretty important part of having a serious relationship.
He should still be making an effort to do fun things and spend quality time with you.
But I think you already know the answer to this one; you touched on it already when you said that you don't have many friends here. You can't depend on this guy to be your entertainment all of the time; you really need some girl friends to spend time with and make life more exciting. Join a club, team, take up a hobby, do whatever, but make sure you have your own time where you're doing your own thing and not just waiting for him to come home. It will make you a lot more interesting to him as an individual, too, and may cause him to spend more time with you.
Welcome to the board kherberg,
Maybe you could approach it differently... consider reading the book Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman and also finding a way to discuss 'date night' for the two of you without bringing up his outings with his friends.
I'm not sure why you would move in with someone that you fought a lot with before moving in....
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