What's wrong here?

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Registered: 08-03-2004
What's wrong here?
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Tue, 08-03-2004 - 1:41pm
So I met this guy and things were going well. We had a lot in common and i thought that things could possubly go some place. BUt one night i asked him his opinion of the whole thing and he told me there was no chance for a long term relationship because of my weight. (now i'm not fat, but i will def admit i'm not a perfect weight either). He continues to tell me that he could love me, but the weight stopped all chances. He was also telling me about how he thinks i'm perfect and stuff. I know i should just move on, but i just don't know what to think right now. help?
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Registered: 08-01-2004
Tue, 08-03-2004 - 4:02pm
Any man who says they can only love you if you change something about yourself isnt worth your time. Looks aren't everything. Find someone who thinks you are perfect just the way you are. Goodo relationship's arent based on how you can change the person you are with, they are based on loving that person for exactly who and what they are. If you want to make changes make them for yourself, never make a change for someone else you will end up resenting them for forcing you to make the change and who knows you might change and things wouldnt work out anyway.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-03-2004 - 4:25pm
solecstacy...

From one musician to another....are YOU happy with your appearance?

Don't rely on the judgements or promises of others, but ask yourself (honestly) if shedding a few pounds would make you feel better?

If the man you're seeing has an issue with your weight...you might want to ask him (NOW) if there's anything else (that you have) that bothers him? It's a pretty good indicator of where your relationship is headed!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 08-03-2003
Tue, 08-03-2004 - 4:48pm
CAUTION --- hurtful moments to come!!!!!!

This guy does not sound like somebody who would appreciate you and love you - for you. Your weight should not be an issue to his feelings towards you, he sounds hollow and does not sound like a person who will make you happy and secure, before things go anywhere else..just move on, and soon someone who will appreciate all your beautiful curves will come on his way:)

Tearyangel
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Registered: 08-03-2004
Sat, 08-07-2004 - 11:19pm
Thank You all for your posts. these mean a lot to me, and they've honeslty helped me. I guess i'm just rushing into somehtiing unhealthy because of a lack of relationships, you are all right and it's not worth the pain... thank you again