Having a critical mother, I can understand your husband's point of view. It took me a long time and a lot of effort to learn how to stand up to my mom in general so I would not have been able to stand up when she was being critical of my fiance. I think by dwelling on this you are only giving them more power to hurt your marriage. Regardless of what you may think of the man, he is still your husband's father. It should be your husband's decision as to whether or not he wants to have a relationship with him.
Is your husband still available to you and your kids when he needs to be? For instance, does he spend most of the day with you and the children on the holiday versus going over to spend the day at his parents? That is really what matters. That your husband is still around for you and your children when he needs to be. As long as he is, what does it matter what they think or say? Why dwell on it? By letting it get to you, you are only driving a wedge in your marriage and giving the in-laws precisely the type of power that they want to have.
My husband has a horrible father, and my husband says as weird as it is he still wants to get his approval even though he knows he won't get it. However, my husband isn't afraid to let him father know how it is and will draw the line with him. I think your husband needs to do the same thing when it comes to the safety of your family. But I don't know how to tell you to get him to do that. Sorry.
Having a critical mother, I can understand your husband's point of view. It took me a long time and a lot of effort to learn how to stand up to my mom in general so I would not have been able to stand up when she was being critical of my fiance. I think by dwelling on this you are only giving them more power to hurt your marriage. Regardless of what you may think of the man, he is still your husband's father. It should be your husband's decision as to whether or not he wants to have a relationship with him.
Is your husband still available to you and your kids when he needs to be? For instance, does he spend most of the day with you and the children on the holiday versus going over to spend the day at his parents? That is really what matters. That your husband is still around for you and your children when he needs to be. As long as he is, what does it matter what they think or say? Why dwell on it? By letting it get to you, you are only driving a wedge in your marriage and giving the in-laws precisely the type of power that they want to have.
If they want him there he is there.
Welcome to the board lostintheinlaws,
My husband has a horrible father, and my husband says as weird as it is he still wants to get his approval even though he knows he won't get it. However, my husband isn't afraid to let him father know how it is and will draw the line with him. I think your husband needs to do the same thing when it comes to the safety of your family. But I don't know how to tell you to get him to do that. Sorry.
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