When will it be the same again.....

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Registered: 11-07-2008
When will it be the same again.....
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Fri, 11-07-2008 - 3:59pm
My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now. We recently moved into together a few months ago. We both have children. My daughter lives with us full time and his son comes every weekend. A month ago he had neck surgery and has been on disability since. Last week I found out that he's addicted to his pain medicine and went through a months worth in about a week and half. He'd been sleeping for 2 days and not eating and wouldn't talk to me at all. I finally went snooping around and realized that he was out of his medicine. I confronted him and told him that I refuse to be with someone addicted to drugs. Prescription or not and I wasn't going to have my daughter watch him go through withdrawls. Apparently he'd been lieing to me about his medicine for months even before the surgery. Well he went to the DR and admitted he had a problem and they are working to get him off the medicine. But then we got in a huge fight over it. We fought about everything that has been bothering the other one for awhile. Ever since then there has been this tension between us and I feel so awkward around him. I want him to get better and I want to be there for him but I'm hurt by his lies too. I feel like I don't know how to talk to him anymore. And he seems so frustrated and distant with me lately. We haven't really even hugged or kissed for over a week now. We have always been so loving towards each other and really haven't fought much in the past. We used to have great communication I thought. Now it feels like everything in the past has been a lie. I don't know what to do anymore or how to get our relationship back on track. I want our relationship to get back to normal, and when I tried to talk to him about it he says I'm putting to much pressure on us to be normal again. I need advice? How should I handle this or approach him. Should I give it space and time to heal itself or keep trying to talk it through?
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Registered: 05-11-2008
Sat, 11-08-2008 - 9:41am

What you and your boy friend are going through is so tough.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Sat, 11-08-2008 - 10:44am

Welcome to the board emababy23,


I can understand your desire to get past this and get your relationship back to normal, however, I agree with your bf maybe you are trying to hard right now.