where did the lust go

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-06-2004
where did the lust go
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Fri, 08-06-2004 - 11:39pm
two years age my husband just stopped wanting me. Not even a friendly touch. i had to beg to get any thing regarding passion. Nothing i say seems to make him realize that this is a need not just a want. But he brushes it off like i should forget about passion. Can this be saved. Weve been togethere 16 years and he know that my priorty #1 is physical pleasure.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-25-2004
Sat, 08-07-2004 - 11:00am
of course this is just my opinion but maybe your number one priority shouldn't be the physical pleasure. that voids emotion and feeling. maybe your husband withdraws from you physically because to you, its a means to an end (pleasuare) rather than an emotional connection and he feels degraded and used.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2003
Sat, 08-07-2004 - 1:50pm

hi there... this is not something that's just going to get better on its own. i don't know what is the 'cause' here, is this an age-related issues (you don't mention your ages)? is your husband angry about other things? are either/both of you overweight? is he stressed out? etc.


this is not a short-term lapse, this has been going on for two years. get some professional help. good luck