Where did our marriage go wrong?
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| Wed, 07-30-2008 - 10:51pm |
I am now 39 and my husband is 40, we have 1 child and have been married for 8yrs. I guess you could say that we never really had a strong marriage. He is very controlling and in general...not a happy guy.
We don't have much communication and he is not overly nice to me. Basically to him, if dinner is served, everything is ok in his world. I feel like I am not his partner, just here to take over the role from his mother. He grew up in the world where mommy does everything and daddy works...period. Well, I have 3 PT jobs that I juggle along with my child who is 4. I work while she is in school and I do some work at night. I sort of freelance so I have some flexibility. We have a strange financial situation where he pays some bills and I pay other bills, since I quit my career when my daughter was born, I don't make nearly as much money, so I pay my few small bills, (cell, ins) and I buy all the groceries and house needs (soap, shampoo) and I pay for my daughter's school (400 a month). Now in order for me to pay for these things, I do have to work a few nights, only for a few hours, maybe 2 nts a week. But EVERY week is the same, when HE comes home and I have to go to work he makes comments and acts like I am troubling him. He claims that I don't have to work those nights....It's the same old story, I am suppose to pay for these things, but yet he gets mad when I go to work...I can't win here....
I also joined a local group with other moms and get together with the kids in the daytime for kids activites, no

Not much!
Welcome to the board lileelee24,
Next time he tells you that you don't need to work nights, hand him (in his hands)