where to go from here

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Registered: 06-30-2004
where to go from here
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Wed, 06-30-2004 - 12:44pm
Me and my fiance have been dating for 3 years an 3 months and we got engaged last Septmeber. I was with him in NY but my home is in Puerto Rico. Right now I'm in PR and he's in NY and I don't know when I'm going back since I graduated. We are both trying to figure out how to be together yet he can't leave NY because of the job he is waiting to get in Spetember and I have a job in Puerto Rico. Our wedding was scheduled for March of next year and I don't think it will happen. I am really confused and have no idea what to do with our relationship. I don't want to do long distance. I am tired of being away from him... Please help me.
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 4:17pm
The only remedy I see is that one of you will have to leave your job and move to be with the other. Surely at some point you must have discussed this, knowing that this day would come after you graduated. Where did you plan to live after getting married in March? Why won't you go live in NY and find a new job there? If you don't want to do that, and he doesn't want to leave his job to live in PR, I'm afraid either this isn't going to work out or one of you will end up where you don't want to be. I don't see many other options other than a LDR. Sorry. Hope you find happiness in whatever lies ahead.