Where is the Spark?

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Registered: 06-15-2007
Where is the Spark?
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Fri, 06-15-2007 - 2:36am

I have been with my wonderful boyfriend for 10 months now. I love him more than anything in this world and he is my world. The problem is that we had an argument (our first) and we resolved it. We drew a line in the sand and moved on. Now it seems that the spark that we once had is fading. When I ask him if he is ok, he says yes and nothing is wrong. I think we are walking on eggshells with each other. That's the last thing I want to do right now. I just want things back to the way they were, laughing and enjoying each other's company. How do I get this? I want things to be the same as they were. I don't think he loves me anymore. Any help would be great!

Thanks!

Li

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Registered: 10-13-2004
In reply to: li658
Fri, 06-15-2007 - 4:04am

Assuming you're correct about the link between the fight and the change in attitude, I'm wondering if the argument was *truly* resolved. Were you both satisified with the outcome? Or what about the fighting style - were any insults traded? Or did you yell at him?

I'm just looking for some clues as to what may be wrong.

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Registered: 06-15-2007
In reply to: li658
Fri, 06-15-2007 - 6:06am
I didn't yell at him or throw things in his face. He did all that stuff. I sat and cried and listened and apologized. Then he went home and the next day he seemed to be back to normal. I don't believe in screaming because I believe that we are both adults and can discuss things civilly. I have a feeling that he is insecure. I do reassure him, but is that enough?