Which one?

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Registered: 04-18-2004
Which one?
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Sun, 04-18-2004 - 4:19pm
I was dating a guy, Guy #1, for about 2 months. Everything was going great but then his ex-girl moved up with their son. Well the girl didn't have any place to stay at so he let them stay with him. He didn't tell me till a week later and I told him that it wasn't ok and he had to get her a hotel or apartment or get a hotel for himself. Well a few days later he broke up with me by leaving me a letter. The part of the letter that really confuses me is that he wanted to end it before it got too far out of hand. I was upset and hurt and tried calling him but he never answered. I sent a letter saying that I missed our relationship and wanted to be with him. Some time after that he called me and left a message saying that he wanted to talk to me and see me and that he would call the next day. Well, he hasn't called back. I sent him a message saying that it was up to him to call me.

Between the time he broke up with me and the time I sent the letter I found out that he was trying to get back together with one of his other ex's.

Also I have been talking to this other guy, Guy #2, for the past few days. We've talked on the phone for over 2 hours each night. The only problem is that there is quite a bit of distance between us but we have a lot more in common.

I'm not sure if I should try to get ahold of Guy #1 to see what's going on. I still have feelings for Guy #1 but they are slowly diminishing every day. I think I was starting to fall in love with Guy #1 and this was my first serious relationship. Also this was the first time that anyone has broken up with me. I'm not sure if I should continue to pursue Guy #1. Also since I still have feelings for him, I'm not sure if I should pursue a relationship with Guy #2. Any advice or suggestions would be appreciated. Thanks.


Edited 4/19/2004 12:10 pm ET ET by frazzled_n_confused

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 04-19-2004 - 2:18pm
Forget #1 - he's got a thing for his ex, she's living with him, don't let him have his cake and eat it too.... by trying to make contact.


Carrie