who is better for me

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Registered: 10-29-2003
who is better for me
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Mon, 10-04-2004 - 2:26pm
Close to a month and a half ago, I broke up with my bf of 3 1/2 years, who I lived with for 2 1/2 years. I just felt so disconnected from him. We fought a lot and I did not enjoy having sex with him for a while before we broke up. I had thoughts of leaving him for about 6 months before it finally ended. Over this past summer, I met a great man through my sister. He is everything that I wanted my bf to be like. We started a friendship and it has escalated into a romantic relationship. The problem is that my original bf wants me back and when I think of all the time I spent with him, all our common interests, then fun we had together.... I can't help but think about taking him back. But this new guy is so wonderful, sincere, romantic. I have passion with him. I did not have that with the other guy. I don't know whether to stay with the new guy or go back to the one who I'm used to.
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 10-04-2004 - 3:16pm
So you think if you go back to your ex that somehow instantly there will be passion and romance?

I think you really haven't healed from the first relationship before starting with the new guy and that's sad, for him and for you. You walk away from him and you probably wouldn't get another chance with him after you find out things haven't changed with your ex. Also, usually at the beginning of a new relationship there is a lot of infatuation, sparks and passion, keeping it alive is key.

Sorry you have to go through this.


Edited 10/4/2004 3:33 pm ET ET by itwinflame


Carrie