WHO SAID DATING A TATTOO ARTIST WAS EASY
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| Tue, 09-28-2004 - 8:01pm |
He works 25 hours a day, 8 days a week. His new business eats up a lot of his time. He comes home at the earliest by MAYBE midnight, but more likely leaning towards 3am.. sometimes not at all. I know he's doing his homework, tattooing, working on the bids for his house, maintaining things, etc. I accept the fact that he isn't around all that often, but I use the small amount at time when he comes home at night as a blessing, and 80% of the time, it's wonderful. Yet... he is not a morning person, and insists on being a complete a**hole 50% of the time, even though I am the SOLE person who is his personal alarmclock to go to class every morning, AND prepare him breakfast .
Most of the time, when he can't be woken up, he's a complete dink to me and gets irritated because he does not communicate with me the fact if he's actually awake and taking my "annoying morning abuse" silently, or wakes up to me just being "annoying" in general. My thoughts on this are, that if you have somewhere to be in the morning then you get your buns UP AND OUT OF BED NOW, because **I** also have many things to do in the morning and can't afford to have him slow up my mornings. Also, I think that if he would be otherwise sleeping through his INTENSELY annoying alarmclock for HOURS past his appointment times, he should be thankful that I at least wake up early to make sure that he's out of the house on time.
Another example I can give, is that I go to his family functions all the time. If there is one, I'm there by his side. He knows that it means a lot to me if he would take time out of his busy schedule to to things with me, but alas I don't have much family in the area to do so. So this does not happen. A few days ago, my parents randomly came down to where I live and ate dinner with me. Now, I invited him and said that this was very important to me that he meet with my parents some more, and that YES, he could go to that motorcycle sale event, but HAD to be back by the time I was to eat dinner with my parents. He PROMISED me that he would be there, and DEFINITELY call if there was a problem getting there in time . The thing is about this guy, though, is that he has no concept of time. 2 days could go by, and he thinks the first day isn't done yet. He's late for most everything, which is whatever he wants, but NOT for MY EVENTS. I've NEVER had one of these events occur while I have been with him...
Of course, he never called, and never showed up for dinner. Hurt, I went home in tears... I saw him at his studio and crossed my arms and told him to explain. He had gotten stuck in traffic and couldn't call because his bike buddy kept going and wouldn't stop. Fact of the matter is, is that he could have flagged him down and told him, "hey, I don't know what time it is, but just in case, let's check so I can call her and tell her I won't be there, or will be late." He didn't think of this until 6:30, a half hour after the dinner date time. Even then, he didn't call me, he just flew on back up home. He was seriously sorry about it.
The other fact of the matter... is that if he had had a tattoo appointment, or had to meet with his family, he would have checked the time and nixed the motorcycle sale and detoured on back up to whatever event he should have been at. But as much as I know he cares very much about me, he had completely forgotten me and/or what time it was, and didn't even call. A phone call would have been at LEAST ok, but on the same note, he should have turned around and nixed the sale altogether, because this event was VERY IMPORTANT TO ME.
I don't doubt how much he cares, but I do think he takes for granted way too much of what I offer. He knows I'll always be there for him, and he's there for me as much as he can be, but his temper is awful... when I mention things and problems like this to him, he gets defensive and makes me feel it's all my fault because he's "too stressed to talk about such nonsense" even though he stresses the fact that he and I need to communicate more.
The other night he got sad because he said he'd do something for me, and I just said, "Hon, I know you'll forget. So just forget about it, I'll find someone else."
I know you guys are going to say that I should get out of this relationship NOW, but I will explain more about his profession and how I accept most things he does, mostly because with a person like him you HAVE to move slowly. We are very close. I just need advice on how to communicate with him more without having to break up, because frankly, I have faith in him... but I'm losing patience.
If you could help me out, that would be great. I'm very depressed about this situation.
-Erin

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I noticed, but it had nothing to do with Jesse James--either of them.
I know it had nothing to do with him.......just saying!
I agree with many of her points, but this particular guy has too many traits that are relationship breakers, and Jessica chose to ignore them.
I hope the OP left that guy in the dust.
Wow! Were you speaking to me? I'm in the same boat!
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