Who should say I LOVE YOU first?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-06-2007
Who should say I LOVE YOU first?
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Sun, 12-02-2007 - 5:04pm

My question is who should say I love you first in a relationship?


My BF and I have been together for five months and we haven't said that. I know that I fell in love with him a few weeks ago and I do not doubt it. I love him.


the other day I sent him a text message saying "I miz u"....he wrote back with "I heart you" ----This is not the same as "I love you" right?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Sun, 12-02-2007 - 6:49pm

I always wait for the guy to say it. Guys usually take longer to fall in love and by the time they do, you're usually on the same page as far as being in love.

No I'm inclined to think that "I heart you" doesn't quite mean "I love you" but it's close. Sounds like he's not too far off.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 12-02-2007 - 7:01pm

Welcome to the board midstrea08,


There was a discussion about this on the board a few days ago:


Is it wrong for...........


iVillage Member
Registered: 12-02-2007
Tue, 12-04-2007 - 4:35pm

If you feel so strongly about it and know that you are both sincere in making this relationship work, as well as taking it to the next level, then you should definitely say it. I personally don't think it matters at all who says it first in terms of the guy or the girl; it should be who feels it first and who wants to say it. The only downside is that some people are afraid of getting hurt when the other person doesn't say it right back. But life's too short, if you think he's worth "your love" then you should tell him how you feel!