who was in the wrong?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-31-2003
who was in the wrong?
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Sat, 10-13-2007 - 10:16pm

Hello, I need opinions on my situation.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-13-2007
Sun, 10-14-2007 - 7:13am

He does need to call you. It's called common courtesy. Just because he's married to you doesn't mean he doesn't have to behave in an appropriate manner any longer. Although he expressed initial uncertainty about going to the movie, he did in fact commit to it in the end and if he wanted to change his mind, he should have called to discuss it in an effort to reach a compromise.


I literally chuckled at his assertion that you should just be grateful he came home at all. If he wants to be free from extending aforementioned common courtesy to whom he chose to marry, perhaps he should consider his options.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Sun, 10-14-2007 - 9:14am

>he could have taking a fast shower and it's my fault we are not going. Then he said "I didn't promise you we were going"
>He accused me of trying to control his time

He's getting defensive and angry because he's wrong. I hope he sucks it up and apologizes to you.

But you're also wrong... By asking a man to go shopping with you. Asking a man to go on a date to the store is like telling him to be there at 6pm so he can have his eyes removed

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 10-14-2007 - 3:55pm

Welcome to the board emerging31,


First rule: NEVER argue with someone that's been drinking. ;)


Of course his behavior is inappropriate, but it won't fix anything to make him wrong and blame him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 12:15pm

Welcome to the board emerging31,


I am getting the feeling that this isn't the first time something like this has happened. Am I right?


He should have called you, when he was running late or to say he had changed his mind. I actually would have called when he hadn't arrived home in the 1 1/2 hr that he said he would, but that is also because I start to worry that something might have happened.

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