Why am i feeling this way

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Registered: 11-19-2006
Why am i feeling this way
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Fri, 09-07-2007 - 3:25pm
Fiance is going work out of state for a week. Why do i feel like im going to lose him when he goes??? Any advice is needed
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 09-07-2007 - 5:33pm

Either because you don't trust him and don't have a very good self esteem.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 09-07-2007 - 6:08pm

Your feeling that you will lose your fiance when he goes out of town points to a deep insecurity within you, as though you cannot hold him. Does he flirt with others? Does he do anything to make you feel he does not love you, or has second thoughts? Is he adding to this situation?


It's important to feel good about yourself and worthy of love. Build your own self esteem. Realize that trust is the basis of all healthy relationships. Look deeply and see if you are able to trust him and also to trust yourself to be all that he needs.


If this feeling is very pesistent, it is a good idea to go for counseling and work out the issues which are causing it.


Best wishes,

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Fri, 09-07-2007 - 7:00pm

You feel this way because of your basic insecurities.

Nikkit, I've seen many of your posts and they all have the same underlying concern: that you're not good enough and your fiance will loose interest in you.

Many of us have some insecurities, but Nikkit, your level of insecurity is not normal. You need professional help and you need it now.

I'm also concerned that your fears and insecurities about him leaving will become a self fulfilling prophecy. Have you ever realised that this level of insecurity will wear down many a good man? Most men want a happy, self confident woman. How about you learning to be this woman?

Please, get some help for yourself before you damage your relationship too severely.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Sat, 09-08-2007 - 9:35am
I agree with the other responses, and urge you to try to think positively about this. Get a bunch of girlfriends together and have some good times. Take the whole bed to yourself. You CAN have a great week without him and you should try to do things that make you happy.