why am I obsessing over this jerk?
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why am I obsessing over this jerk?
| Thu, 12-20-2007 - 12:30am |
Heres the background-about 7months ago a man moved upstairs from me...He is approx 12yrs younger than I & we met via our dogs...Since we are both here with no family (I've been here longer) & w/few friends we began spending alot of time together-of course through the dogs-He has come to my apartment every night until recently to get me for our nightly 4mile dog walk...This summer I had surgery recovering from a 3yr illness.
I will admit-my 1st impression of this male was he was very immature & a bit obnoxious-he has an ego a mile long & he isnt handsome at all!!!

Welcome to the board boise2007,
I guess I am confused as to why you are mad at him for
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Welcome to the board boise2007,
I'd say you are obsessing because you had/have feelings for this guy and instead of acknowledging them a long time ago, you denied them.
Ok logically i understand this you are right we started out as buds not "dating"....as for the response why am I mad about dating other women?
#1 - not everyone reacts or interacts the same way we do. Maybe your reaction sent him running. Maybe he's not good at dealing with messy feelings.
Well I am glad your advice is free-if I wanted to read a self-help book I would have bought one....I've spoken to other women & male friends alike & asked for their honest feedback -none of them could find it in their hearts to think his behavior was exceptable...as for the olive branch I have tried multiple times-the point is even though I'd like to blame myself so I could find a way to fix it-the point is there wouldn't have been an over-reaction if he didnt present the situation in the 1st place!!! Bottomline I need to stop being hurt & get angry bacuae no matter what a "real" man would never tell a women he is going out with another women (real or made up)the night b-4 he is to leave town on a romantic weekend with another.
I didn't realize you had tired so many times with the olive branch. It's hard to give advice when only hearing part of the story, left out details etc.
Thanks-I wish I really knew what was intriging me-I think a friend summed it up today-they said no-one likes to be conned & since they live here know both of us & his daily behavior it's easier for them to comment.
you are very right-& I don't want to use excuses doesn't help especially since i am the one looking for feedback...I do want to clarify something though-2 things actually we all start out as friends & if there is something more it develops so yes at 1st we were just "friends" friends are suppose to nuture each other not find ways to 1 up them or hurt their feelings knowingly-my opinion- so for the 1st point-there weren't any other women these were made up stories either past relationships that he was trying to put into the present or simply fabrications......He was with me almost every single day for 7months when we wern't at work....yes of course he went out every Wednesdy w/ a buddy & would would tell me about this girl or that girl he met -that was ok.....It was the intimate details that he shared that bothered me....do I need to say more?