Why are men so selfish???

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2008
Why are men so selfish???
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Tue, 01-29-2008 - 7:36am

I am new to the site and I would appreciate any advice you all could give me.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Tue, 01-29-2008 - 8:43am

I'm sorry. He's acting like a jerk. I wish I could slap him upside his head through the monitor, but I can't :( It sounds as though he almost wants to sabotage your success and bring you down with him. Sometimes men get very resentful of a successful woman - Soon you will be a bar-certified attorney and he will still be a teacher's aid. Maybe he's looking at what he has to show for himself as a man, husband and father, and coming up short. That's his own fault. Watching TV and drinking beer instead of accomplishing anything - even something societally trivial like taking care of his kids - is a choice that he consciously makes. I don't know, maybe he's depressed.

Don't let him bring you down, good luck on the bar :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-06-2004
Tue, 01-29-2008 - 9:04am

Hugs! I think you should tell him that you are need, and therefore are going to take, the extra day to study because you are unable to study at night, given all your home duties that occupy your evenings. If he will agree to pick up those responsibilities, then you could study at night. If not, you need to make alternate arrangements because passing the bar is important as it will help your family, so studying for the bar is important.

Is there anyway you can get tapes made that you could listen to as you do your tasks, so even while you're not actively studying you're getting some of it?

I know it's stressful (I'm a lawyer), but hang in there and this will all be a distant memory soon!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-27-2004
Tue, 01-29-2008 - 9:48am

Like the other posters, I think your husband is insecure and is making you suffer because of it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 01-29-2008 - 12:40pm

Welcome to the board leighndoug,


Good luck on your exam.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Tue, 01-29-2008 - 12:42pm

Welcome to the board leighndoug,


Have you asked your husband to help you out more around the house? Maybe you could try saying "Hey I'll do the dishes could you start a load of laundry" or something like that.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2008
Tue, 01-29-2008 - 3:36pm
Thank you to everyone who answered my post.