Why are some people on here so mean?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-05-2004
Why are some people on here so mean?
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Wed, 06-09-2004 - 10:22am
I've noticed something that is kind of disturbing. Some of the people who post to this section are just really freaking rude! The section is for people with relationship problems, so obviously there are going to be some who are emotional, depressed, upset, or otherwise affected by their relationship's issue. How helpful is it to come in here and demean or put down women or men who are already upset because they're facing that in their every day life from a partner?

If you have a great relationship, fine. Give advice on how to get others to that point. If you don't take crap from men or women, good for you. Encourage other people here to stand up for themselves. But calling people names for having feelings or feeling hurt is completely unnecessary. If your relationship is so perfect and you need no help, why are you here?? If you can't offer helpful advice, why not go somewhere else?

I apologize to all for the early morning rant, but I think it's rude to call people names for looking for support on a support message board. What did you expect people to talk about in here? Cookie and casserole recipes? >:o(

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-23-2003
Sat, 06-12-2004 - 4:09pm
Very good point pianoguy.. very good point
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-12-2004
Sat, 06-12-2004 - 8:28pm
Today has been the first time I've posted a problem and asked for advice/help. I've yet to see someone being purposely mean--blunt maybe. When I put my problem out there I expected cheers for me--what I got was honesty from people who don't know all the details but can see there is more than one side. It made me see me from their point of view.

I got posts from both sides of the fence. They may have not been exactly what I wanted to hear but it sure made me think deeper than I already have. Honesty isn't always something we want, but it can help.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-10-2004
Sat, 06-12-2004 - 8:33pm
I have noticed in the short time I have came on this board that sometimes people are harsh when it could be said in a more delicate way. There maybe people who are rude and I just haven't read enough of the msg.

Were all people hurting and to be more sensitive to their msgs. may be better. But then sometimes we do need a wake up call and the sugar coating isn't helping it is the more blunt msg's that wake us up.

Sometimes I need a good kick in the head for me to really know what is going on.

I think it was good someone brought this up so that we can think alittle more before we respond as to what to say and how to say it.

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