Why can't I meet her friends???????
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Why can't I meet her friends???????
| Tue, 09-14-2004 - 12:12am |
My girl and I have been living together for the past 4 months.The girls on her job are soo curious to meet her boyfriend(me).This is because in sometime during the 4 months she had mentioned me to them on few occassions.She usually changes the subject when they bring up the idea of having a get-together and inviting her boyfriend.
I am wondering why she wouldn't want her friends on the job to meet me.For a guy maybe it is not a big issue.My girlfriend says she would like to keep her personal life personal and business, business.She says these girls are just co-workers and not her personal friends.She also says she and I have only been together 5 months and would prefer us to make our relationship more secure.
I am wondering why she wouldn't want her friends on the job to meet me.For a guy maybe it is not a big issue.My girlfriend says she would like to keep her personal life personal and business, business.She says these girls are just co-workers and not her personal friends.She also says she and I have only been together 5 months and would prefer us to make our relationship more secure.

What her intentions are is hard to say...Sounds like a bit of insecurity, as if she brings you around, it will jinx the relationship...Personally, I think its a cop out. For whatever reason, she doesnt want to meet new freinds, or have them meet you. i would ask her why. I am very proud of my finace and jump at the chance for him and I to meet new people, or to introduce him. I think it makes th erelationship stronger, not requiring it to be strong in order to do so.
You could ask her when she thinks the two of you have enough time together to warrant meeting her co-workers.
Carrie
However, from what your post said you had only been dating for one month when you moved in together. That sounds pretty fast to me! She is using security as an excuse, but if she was secure enough with you to have you guys live together...I think thats a bigger step than meeting work friends, don't you think? It takes a lot more committment to move in with someone than it does to meet people at their work. So you might want to sit her down and discuss her security issues.