Why can't I trust him?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2004
Why can't I trust him?
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Thu, 02-05-2004 - 3:24pm
My boyfriend has never done anything that would leave me to believe that I can not trust him. BUT when that phone rings I have to know exactly who it is and what they want. IF I find something around the house that I don't know about I immediately have to ask him about it. AS soon as I hear about something that I didn't know about or that he didn't intend to share with me, I am all over him for keeping secrets. I don't keep secrets from him, so it feels like a betrayl everytime I find out there is something he is keeping from me. What can I do to accept that he isn't as open as I am? How can I show him that I am trying to accept him as he is(and actually do it)? HELP!! I am pushing him away, he says that he won't let me push him away, he will tell me before it gets that far, but I am thinking about it everyday, every moment!!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-04-2003
Thu, 02-05-2004 - 4:11pm
Hi - you say your boyfriend has never given you any reason not to trust him - but has there been boyfiend(s) in the past that gave you reason? I know in my past I have had relationships that were distrustful and because of that I have a hard time trusting again. I am in a relationship right now with the sweetest man who I know I can trust totally - yet I find myself being the same way you describe. I am getting better though - as time has gone on I can see that he is not like the others and that seems to ease my mind. I don't know how long you have been together - but if has been a short time - give it a little more time.