why did he break my heart?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-29-2004
why did he break my heart?
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Sun, 02-29-2004 - 10:02pm
I dont understand what happened? I've been dating my bf for 1 year and 3 months. I see him on the weekends...We never fight.He's afraid to tell me that he loves me, but i feel as though he does. The last two weeks I've noticed that he's been acting weird.He seemed depressed. He broke up with me...yesterday. He didn't give me a reason why.He just said he didnt know where this was going, and that he was having problems at work. He also told me not to become a "stranger". I dont know what to do...I already wrote him an e-mail...but he hasnt written me back. I dont know what to do to get him back.. I dont believe he's seeing anyone, why is he backing away?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-03-2004
Sun, 03-07-2004 - 10:26am
I'm as confused as you are, but maybe it will help to have someone help share the burden. My only guess is that maybe he just kept things to himself and then one day had enough, not that it would be your fault. However, you said you never fought, which is saying quite a lot for a year and three months long relationship. I have disagreements A LOT more than that. Disagreeing in itself is not a bad thing, even conflict is o.k. It's how people conduct themselves when they disagree.

If he never disagreed with you and went along with everything, it's likely he felt he couldn't continue that way. Maybe he grew-up in a home where he had no rights and so feels he must always be quiet. Perhaps if you contact him you could ask him how he feels and what he wants. It's possible no one's ever asked him before.

These are just guesses, but they may be a starting point. Best wishes.