why did mr. wonderful stop calling?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-26-2003
why did mr. wonderful stop calling?
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Thu, 03-18-2004 - 7:32pm
I've been seeing this wonderful guy for 2 months now. He has been very attentive - sending sweet emails during the day and calling me every day. Just two weeks ago he told me he really likes me.. we have been spending a lot of time together. And then recently he has slowed down. He didn't reply to an email, then didn't call, and now he's left town without so much as a simple good bye. What happened???? I don't understand men!
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-19-2003
Fri, 03-19-2004 - 12:36am
I'm not sure what happened. Sounds like everything was going fine to me. Did he leave Town for good, or just on a trip? He gave you no indication that anything was wrong? I'm sorry he left you hanging like this. Maybe he will call, and you can get this all straigtened out? It's not really fair or polite to just drop someone like that. Hang in there....
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-13-2003
Fri, 03-19-2004 - 8:50am
Don't push his behavior off on "men" in general. All men don't behave the same way. It's not hard for someone to be wonderful for the first 2 months of dating, in fact, it's more often the case than not IMO. It's how their behavior is stacking up after 6 months, 12 months, 2 years, etc. that shows you the REAL person. Who knows why he is slacking off and left without saying goodbye? Could be a whole list of reasons. The only one who can answer that is him. Only time can tell you if the great behavior and feelings in the beginning are real -- if they last or not is the telltale factor. If it doesn't last and things begin to fizzle, the reason WHY doesn't matter really. You're just not right for one another, that's all. Doesn't mean one of you is bad or wrong, etc. Just not right for one another.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-26-2003
Fri, 03-19-2004 - 10:17am

Dont over analyze this...in fact, he probably thought there was nothing wrong with him leaving without a goodbye. You havent been together that long, so maybe he felt that by making a big to-do about going out of town (im assuming he's coming back), he would freak you out. When he gets back, Im not sure if i would make an issue out of this.Doing so may push him away.


Take things one day at a time andenjoy being with a great guy.


Best Wishes,