why do guys do this?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-04-2004
why do guys do this?
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Tue, 10-05-2004 - 12:01am
I have been with my bf for 3 years and in the past 3 years we have broken up 3 times and after 2 months of are break he always ends up contacting me. I wanted to know what is going through his mind? does he miss me? what is he thinking? Im sick of it and i dont want to cave in again, its almost been 2 months and i know he will call...is it just games or does he really love me? Im 22 and he's 27 and still lives with his parents and he has a lot of issues with being possesive and jealous and i don't want to be back in that kind of relationship, also when we were together he didn't want me going out with my friends and he wouldn't go out with me either..but all the sudden i hear he goes out now, when before he had anxiety on going out, i don't know what his deal is but if anyone has heard of this behavior please let me know. Thankyou
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2004
Tue, 10-05-2004 - 1:20am
SOUNDS A LITTLE FREAKY TO ME... THE POSSESSIVE GUY... SOUNDS LIKE HE IS IN OBSESSION WITH YOU, WHICH IS NOT HEALTHY AT ALL. I WOULD GET RID OF HIM, IF I WERE YOU. AND GIRL, YOU NEED YOUR FREEDOM. LET HIM GO. YOU CAN DO BETTER. HE'S TRYING TO CONTROL YOU, THAT'S ALL.

GOD BLESS YOU.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-26-2004
Tue, 10-05-2004 - 1:38am
Yes, I've heard of this kind of guy and I've known them. They will emotionally abuse you and possibly physically abuse you in the future. They will never, never take you anywhere but they will go out and have fun and not tell you the truth about what they are doing. They will want you to say alone and wait at home. They can't, repeat CAN'T ever love you but they like owning you like a dog they never pet. They are insecure. They will make your life a living hell and if you dare ask questions they will not answer, they will leave in order to "train you". If you never do anything else for yourself, do this one thing---RUN.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2004
Tue, 10-05-2004 - 1:41am
mokrie,

CAN A SISTER GET AN "AMEN?" lol

Great feedback! You go, girl!