Why do I do this to myself? Vacation issue
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|Fri, 08-03-2012 - 11:28pm|
I posted on here a while back about my relationship troubles with my boyfriend who wasn't really making me a priority and I really thought we were done completely but of course I forgave him and we are still together. Things have been pretty smooth until recently when we were discussing our vacation plans.
He has been super lucky and has went on numerous vacations this year and promised me that I could choose what we were going to do since he's been around the world basically. Since I've been working non-stop and going to school I really want a peaceful vacation like just relaxing just a week on a beach somewhere not worrying about anything. I do not want to go anywhere that is involves a ton of sight seeing.
He has an important networking opportunity and I agreed to travel with him. Now he is telling me that he wants that to do be " our vacation" I really do not feel comfortable or happy spending my hard earned money on a trip that I don't want to go on. He wants to spend a day or two in a few different states which is not my idea of a vacation. I detest traveling especially in the car and it's hard to get comfortable and relax when I'm constantly moving state to state everyday.
At this point I'd rather not do anything at all because it's pointless for me to spend my money on something I don't want to do. I'd rather just travel with him for 2 days to his networking thing and then come home and not go anywhere else. I'm beyond livid that he is taking advantage of my kindess. I only agreed to travel with him on his thing because he didnt want to go alone. The plan was to go on his networking trip for 2 days then come home for a few weeks then go on our relaxing vacation. Money is more of an issue for me so that's why I'm sensitive as to what I'm spending it on.
Am I being oversensitive? Am i in the right to not want to go this vacation? How do I bring this up without hurting his feelings or starting a fight?