why do I feel so threatened? PLEASE help
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why do I feel so threatened? PLEASE help
| Tue, 06-15-2004 - 9:13pm |
Hi,
I've posted before on this, and gotten some great answers, so I'm hoping for more help. I don't know why but I've been very jealous lately in my relationship. I've been w/my bf for almost a year and we are very much in love and everyone says we are such a great and happy couple-which we are. The only problem is the jealousy; I start feeling upset and angry sometimes for no reason, because I think about his past or because he has girl friends and just stupid things like that. I don't lash out at him or anything, but I get depressed and sometimes internally I get mad at him. I know in my head and heart that this is stupid and unreasonable, but I can't help it.
I've posted before on this, and gotten some great answers, so I'm hoping for more help. I don't know why but I've been very jealous lately in my relationship. I've been w/my bf for almost a year and we are very much in love and everyone says we are such a great and happy couple-which we are. The only problem is the jealousy; I start feeling upset and angry sometimes for no reason, because I think about his past or because he has girl friends and just stupid things like that. I don't lash out at him or anything, but I get depressed and sometimes internally I get mad at him. I know in my head and heart that this is stupid and unreasonable, but I can't help it.
The other issue is that we both hate being without the other. I'm not sure if this is something to worry about, but we don't have the problem of guys' or girls' night out, because we'd rather spend time together. We do go out and have fun with other people (our friends, other couples, family, etc.), but we always prefer to be together. Is this strange and/or wrong?
Please give me any suggestions you can!

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Thanks so much for you advice. That's an interesting way to think about it, and I think hearing from other people and seeing that they have similar experiences and that I'm not just really crazy. I've started making arrangements to talk to a professional about it, but the support from here has been great. I'd love if you'd e-mail me: mniemierko@elon.edu. Thanks again!
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