Why do I push him away?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-25-2004
Why do I push him away?
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Sat, 04-28-2007 - 10:25pm

Hi all. I just wanted to know what anyone else thought about this situation:

My b/f and I have been together for over 5 years (living together for over 4 years). We recently had a falling out this past January (I had a wondering eye), but we straightened it out and I decided I wanted to be with him. Ever since then (and part of the reason I had a wondering eye), I keep wondering "What if...?". I always question my decision to stay and I'm always wondering if there's something better out there. He's such a great guy, but how do I know he's right for me? He loves my unconditionally and he knows that I am not giving myself to him 100%...

We're talking about getting married in the next year...I think I need to sort out my feelings before I hurt anyone.

Any advice??

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2007
Sun, 04-29-2007 - 11:53am

"I always question my decision to stay and I'm always wondering if there's something better out there."

This says a lot....read what you wrote again and again if you need to and I think you have your answer.

I have been married 9 years and I have never asked myself if there is something better out there. I have had moments when I want to walk out the door because he drives me nuts, but I knew the moment I met him that he was the one for me and I have never looked back. I really think it is important to know in your gut that this is the person you see yourself with in life for the long haul because it is not always easy...it can be down right hard even with MR. Right.

Sounds like you need to look within yourself and be honest. There are plenty of great wonderful people in the world, but to marry one...passion and the knowing you're doing the right thing is very important.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-29-2003
Sun, 04-29-2007 - 1:00pm
Do you mean that you had a "WANDERING" eye?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 04-30-2007 - 7:00pm

Welcome to the board stoby1,


If you haven't dated a lot, it's normal to wonder 'what if..?"