Why do i stay?

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Registered: 12-31-1969
Why do i stay?
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Sat, 10-02-2004 - 7:07pm
Please help!!!

Ive been with my boyfriend 7 1/2 years now and i no longer feel loved.

We've only had sex 3 times (not in the last 4 years) and it doesnt seem to bother him.

Ive tryed talking about it but he cuts me off and says he'll sort it out but he does nothing. We've just moved to our first home on our own and i thought it would bring us closer but he does everything not to talk to me or be anywere near me, I feel like he hates me!

Im SO unhappy but then ive done some horrible things in the past,perhaps i dont deserve to be happy.

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Registered: 10-03-2004
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Sun, 10-03-2004 - 3:34am
You deserve to be happy. If you really think you are meant to be with this guy, maybe you should try counseling. He probably won't agree to go at first, but when/if you convince him, I'm sure it will help a lot, and may even spark up some of that ol' lovin.

But you should always put yourself and your happiness first. If you feel he will never change, you should leave and find happiness within.

I know it may seem like the road to contentment is far away, but I assure you...you can make it there.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
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Sun, 10-03-2004 - 12:47pm
You haven't had sex in 4 years??? Time to set a time limit and STICK to it. I don't think you really need to wait any longer because if you haven't had sex in 4 years, another couple of months probably won't make a difference. You need to set boundaries for YOURSELF and stick to it. Do this for YOU. He is not going to change. He hasn't wanted to for the past 4 years. What will make him change his mind at this point? Maybe if you leave him, he'll smarten up.