Why do men leave women "hanging"?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-24-2004
Why do men leave women "hanging"?
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Wed, 02-25-2004 - 6:50pm
Question........why do men talk about a woman to all of his friends, have a great time with her on a date, call her everyday for a few weeks to see what she's up to, leave sweet messages on her voicemail each night, open doors for her, then all of a sudden.............stop calling, only to call once and say You were on my mind....and then stop calling again....for weeks.


Guys please explain this. It just doesn't make any sense!!!!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-01-2003
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 10:13pm
they could simply be freaked out by all this intimacy and needs personal space for himself alone, which is a time when he doesn't want to take care of anyone else but himself. that would be the best senerio. sometimes things are more complicated and you should communicate with him without pushing him about his feelings and your feelings. don't expect him to say much though. they are pretty confused must of the time as well.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-24-2004
Thu, 02-26-2004 - 6:16pm
Cool, you could be right. I gave him space from the beginning. We were never intimate, he said he wants to be with me, I said cool lets see what happens. I really only returned his phonecalls and such. He told me all this lovey dovey stuff--not me.

I was never too available, hell we only saw eachother every other weekend or so...But anyway, I think he is still involved with someone and I am new in the picture so I get the backburner until that relationship is done.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-20-2003
Fri, 02-27-2004 - 3:58am
men are afraid of commitment & intimacy, whereas women tends to be emotionally-dependant on men. That's when they will back off when we come too close.

I've got an advice from a male friend - "Cling to men & they'll run away, ignore them & they will come crawling to u"... i agree totally.

:)

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-13-2003
Fri, 02-27-2004 - 12:20pm
Not ALL men are "afraid of committment and intimacy." In fact, it's been my experience that when a man meets a woman he feels is right for him, he will have no problem whatsoever committing (if he's emotionally healthy and available, that is).